You would’ve been 23 years old today, but instead we’re speaking of your first heavenly birthday 😞
Today, I’m not putting a fresh bouquet on your grave, I’m putting artificial ones so they can ‘last’ while I’m away. Last week I was removing dried flowers off your grave in disbelief. That “This can’t be me…” moment 💔
We should be releasing 23 white balloons for you today, but we’ll be releasing 23 black ones. It’s still a dark moment for us, and you my guy….loved black! 🖤
I’m really still trying to wrap my head around this new reality Mwamba - what is this? ❤️🩹
This month has been even harder after receiving partial footage of the scene of the accident. I’ll never get over hearing you hit the glass of the car you were trapped in on those malicious waters. I will never forget the bystanders shouting “He’s alive….he’s alive!” 😓😓😓
Of course you tried to punch the glass open. You were a fighter! You were not going to sit and do nothing but panic. The Mwamba we knew would try the unthinkable. The cuts you had on your right hand are proof of your spirited effort, you went hard for that glass….but 8 minutes before EMS arrived was too long. 8 minutes dramatically diminished your chance of survival. You tried my baby, and I KNOW for a fact you called on God in that moment! 💯
It has been 55 days since you crossed over….I carry the weight of imagining what you went through trapped in that car, that night; your final moments 😓 it’s a painful imagination that will never leave me. What a horrible way to die 😭
On this painful, special day, I want to share a pertinent knowledge tip a friend shared with me. I hope you can adopt this.
Whenever you’re driving near a water body, always open your windows fully. Leave them open until you’re passed the waters. Windows and doors jam under water. Leaving them open in case of an emergency gives you an opportunity to swim out quickly.
Please, for your own safety, next time you’re crossing a bridge, or driving by any water, drop all four windows and your sunroof if you have one. Accidents are accidents, they are never planned. Someone can hit you and you end up in water; at that point, if all your windows are open you can swim out or emergency help can access you easier.
Please never forget this; make it a new habit in memory of my son.
Happy Heavenly Birthday Numero Uno 🤍 🕊️